It is new year and time for new beginning. Therefore, I have decided to move blog to new address: http://morphytheredpill.wordpress.com/
Wordpress is more flexible than blog.hr and since I am rarely at my PC these days, I need more flexibility and iOS compatibility.
This should result in more posts.
I hope you will continue reading at new address.

Last week I was hanging with some of my female friends. Whatever some of the bloggers in the Sphere tell you, never burn your bridges. This is the number one rule of networking. Don't burn bridges, just don't invest too much time. One of those two was recently married and the other is in a LTR of six years. Both know about the Game (one of them actually introduced me to the concept). While girls were chatting about some girly stuff, I spent time with their guys. Somehow, we came to the topic of relationships. And those two guys started joking how their women are making all decisions. "My girl gives me the RC and asks me what I want to watch. I know this is just a token question since we end up watching something she wants." Other guy said "Wen we go to the cinema, she always chooses the movie we are going to watch". Then one of the girls interrupted "Honey, it is not true you don't have a choice. You can pick the cinema we are going to." All four started laughing. I felt disgusted. They continued on and it was clear my friends were those in control of their men. Since then I started noticing a growing trend where guys are behaving like whining pussies. I thought this was only happening in western countries where feminism is strong like States or UK, but not here in Croatia. I didn't know our men are pussy wiped that much.
Then I wrote last night a story of my friend who has a similar problem. I feel sad for him when the solution for his problems is only to hold his frame and not take her shit. This is a big "only" I have been fighting him with. But I feel I am loosing the battle. Some guys just can't be helped. It is sad when guys choose women over friends and family. I only hope one day he will realize the truth.
Today I was reading some blogs and I came to this article. I was shocked again. Igniss, a Croatian Game blogger, did a nice comparison and why more and more men are choosing to exit the sexual market. Because it is easier. A guy can get instant (but artificial) sexual satisfaction from masturbation or porn. No Game is needed. Success is guaranteed. Price is constant. No risk. Those guys spend their time "hanging out" and "socializing" with virtual friends who have similar believes. Usually it is playing video games all the time. It would be nice if this was some distant problem that didn't affect me, but my younger brother is starting to show sings. And he was a bigger player than I was a couple of years ago. What happened?

I feel sad and disturbed for future men who decide to remain boys. There is only one solution.

Get out of comfort zone and start behaving like men!

Oznake: game, feminism, SMP, pornography

Last night I have spent a night with a beautiful new girl (and a new flag). After finishing making love, I tend to ask new girls “What was the moment when you decided you are going to sleep with me? What is the moment I won you over”. She answered: “I can’t really choose a moment. It is more a sum of everything. But if I had to, it would be when we were walking through doors, you opened it for me and then pushed me with your hand on the bottom of my back.” She also added: “You like to be in charge and bossy. Your messages are short and precise”. (I utilize Roosh’s policy keeping texts only for settling logistics. e.g. “Meet me at the bar at 19:00. Dress nicely.”). She continued: “You are rough, but not always.” And then she winked at me seductively.

In my transformation from a nice guy to a masculine guy, I wanted to test how far I can go with stuff I learned all over the Sphere and Internet. That usually meant doing things nice guy in me felt were wrong. But, just for sake of experimenting I kept going and pushing (since obviously nice guy mentality didn't work). From time to time I relapsed into the nice guy (usually especially when I slept with the girl, I wanted to help her somehow). As time passed by I kept relapsing less and less and with this last girl I can happily say I don't consider her anything more than current entertainment. Some would call it a start of misogyny. Maybe they are right. But she is having as much fun as I am. "Return them better than you found them" is a self fulfilling prophecy since they enjoy me at least as much as I enjoy them (and they get to learn a thing or two). But I am getting of the subject.

The ting I did different with this girl is not to bother myself with what is she thinking or feeling. I kept doing things that a masculine, decisive guy would. And always escalate (verbally and physically). Treat her like a black box. Don't listen what she is saying, observe her actions. I got challenged, but I stayed congruent with the image I was presenting. That is the frame control. If you falter for a second and fail incongruently some of her shit tests, you fail. Your loose any attraction you have built and it is game over. This should not discourage you to experiment.
It is hard for a reforming nice guy, and many relapse. They set masculine frame by threatening to leave when girl has much invested (LTR), but never do. And she knows it. And when there is a threat of leaving, she flashes wit her pussy a bit and he returns. Women knows her pussy is her greatest weapon. And she will use it if she knows it works. Because you have showed her!

Let's get to the specifics. Always be a leader and in charge. Make all arrangements and decisions. It is OK to ask her opinion, but stick to only giving her options. Don't make her make decisions.
Ask her to oblige to your standards. She is a part of your image when she is with you. Any resistance needs to be dealt with decisively. And she will resist (thus testing you). Punish her when she is not obliging by removing your attention from her, not commenting on something she worked hard and plainly ignoring her. Tease her. It is freakishly accurate how this resembles to training a dog.
Make her commit. Small commitments (coming to a meeting place you have chosen) at first and keep going from them (kino escalation, time investment, gifts, make out, hickeys, sex).
Always be the one to stop the interaction. Interaction can be texting, conversation, date, making out or sex. This shows you are in control.
Ask for what you want to do or think belongs to you. This also starts small ("I would fancy a walk before going to the bar") and escalates ("I want another round with you").
Handle LMR gracefully. Don't show you are annoyed sexually depraved AFC you probably are. This is the basics of all techniques handling LMR. Even after sex, keep your frame. She didn't give you anything, you weren't lucky, you don't have to grateful. You conquered her and you took it. And she lowed it. When escalating towards sex, lead her, hold her and move her. Show your strength and masculinity. Learn about how to be a good kisser and lover. There is a ton of stuff on the Internet.

Improve yourself from inside out and everything else will fall into place.

Oznake: game, leadership, masculine frame, frame control

I have a friend. His life is tough, really tough. He went through some things I wouldn't want my greatest enemy to go through. He made mistakes, mistakes that participated to the sum of his life. But who hasn't? He is a good person, too good for his own good. And in life we live today such persons get punished for being good. Is being bad the solution?

He was in a happy long term relationship a couple of years ago. His girl got pregnant and they got married. He got a beautiful son. And he was happy. His, now wife, for some reason was not. But he, as a good guy he is, tried to be even nicer. He worked even harder to be the best provider. She demanded even more. He worked even more. Humans are miserable animals. We believe if we do the same thing harder, things will be better, but they won't. Change is what makes things better. He snapped. He got divorced. Splitting almost killed him because he loved and still loves (as of today) his now ex wife. He adores his kid. Who wouldn't? I love his kid. But a child needs a stable family. His will never have.

Family is always there for us. And we, children grown up, try to be for them. But there comes a point in life where life seems unfair and our loved ones go away. It is sad but normal part of life. We have to step in to help. But there is a void that, in order for life to feel normal again, needs to be filled. We try to become providers in stead of our fathers for our family. We start to be mentors in stead of our fathers to our siblings. We start to work harder. Humans are miserable animals. We believe if we do the same thing harder, things will be better, but they won't. Change is what does. We can't live other peoples' lives in stead of our own. This has nothing to do with selfishness but no father or mother would want our lives spent in name of theirs. Some voids have to be accepted and lived with.

He found love again. Like at the beginning of every relationship they played games. Games of courtship and getting to know the limits of other and relationship itself are a normal part of any beginning. But they couldn't stop. When their love was mature and it was clear to everyone they are crazy about each other, they were still driving each other mad by games and drama. She happens to love drama and he happens to love her. They were splitting and getting back together on numerous times. Humans are miserable animals. We believe by doing the same things harder, things will be better. Now, they are split apart for last time but still together. Guys when having tough times tend to run to places they were happy. To women. There is nothing like a warm and tender women's bosom that can calm a man. The same is leadership and decisiveness women seek in men. When there is missing, warmth turns to drama because there are no limits and women tend to test them. Always. Drama provides the same emotions as a decisive man - excitement.

Change.
Change is the only cure for solving problems. It is hard to change. It is easier to escape to moments of happiness (drinking, drugs, ignoring problems...) and, in the mean time, work harder on doing the same thing. Same thing we are so good at. Being miserable. We humans are miserable animals indeed.

I thought of finishing this article with last sentence. But that would be pathetic. There is a way to fight misery. Change. How? Start small. Remove or contain sources of misery. Set priorities. The moment a women is a number one priority, and she knows it (and she will) you become number two. Number one is everything else. Priorities - yourself (health, psychical and mental), family and friends then women. Don't think you can tackle all areas simultaneously. Start by priorities. First, change yourself by start living healthier - exercise and read books. You can't help others if you are a mess. Second, take care of your family and friends. When everything is settled attend to your women. Set her limits. She wants it. Don't be a jerk (no, being bad is not the solution), don't be a nice guy either. Find a middle, be a man who is a decisive leader. A masculine man. Don't sell yourself short for a pussy. If you tell me you love her more than yourself, your family and friends and you believe it deep down, you, my friend, will be miserable for the rest of your life. And sooner then later, you will be alone. Pathetic, bitter, broken and alone. Consider this as my final warning.

Oznake: game, misery

Many will say that once you take the red pill, you have to start hating women. This is not true, at least for the most of us.
Unfortunately, not everyone is ready to take the pill and put an effort that changing your life requires. Also, after realizing and acknowledging the truth, there is a period of frustration. Suddenly, all things you believed, happened to be false. Your world turned around overnight. Again, person who is not strong enough to start life changing process, will take the easy way and became a hater.
Those who start working on themselves will realize one inalienable truth:

Women are not as precious and rare every man thinks they are.

Especially when you see how efficiently routines and materials work. Women will stop to be a mysterious object of desire that is out of your reach.
You will also feel a certain sadness towards women. Their only power is sexual, which has a limited lifespan (their biological clock tends to clock out sooner than ours). Also, they lose most of or all of their power once they give it to a man (or man has taken the pill). They are also attracted to jerks, who abuse them and they tend to rationale it. They are so insecure and lost in the world without someone to guide them, and they are programmed to like it.

One large consequence of the Game is that you stop appreciating women as you used to when you didn't understand them. You tend to put them at their place and not take them as seriously as you used to. It is similar as when you start with a new hobby. You are so eager to try everything and now. As time passes, novelty factor (or lack of it) takes over and hobby is not as exciting as it used to be.

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What is your opinion on the subject? Write them in comments.

Oznake: game, morality, misogyny

If being a nice guy is wrong, that means I have to be a bad boy or jerk in order to be good at Game. Right?
Wrong.
Being nice and being jerk are two opposites. Hitting the golden middle is the key. What does that mean? It means not to tolerate any shit you would not otherwise tolerate. It is the same formula as when dealing with shit tests. When having a moral dilemma, ask yourself: "Is this something I would normally do/put up with if this was a guy who is someone I particularly don't care about?". If yes, then proceed, if no, don't do it. It is as simple as that. Do not tolerate a woman just because she is a woman (and has a pussy). Don't be nice just because you have to, it is expected from you or you were raised to be like that.

But all those routines, techniques and materials look manipulative. I just want to be myself.
Let me ask you a counter question. How often are you "being yourself" when with a women? Do you buy every stranger you meet at the nightclub a drink? Or you buy drinks to girls because you want to them to like you? Are you speaking what is on your mind or are you saying what you think she will like? Are you doing stuff you like or stuff you think she likes? Please, tell me how this is not manipulative or "just being yourself"?
It is not.

Being a guy who knows what he wants and is not afraid to get what he wants is the basic idea of the Game.
All those materials and routines are there to help a guy to get there. Game is knowledge and like any knowledge it is morally neutral. How you use this knowledge, is up to you.
But, let's say, for sake of an argument, you are using your knowledge to get women to sleep with you. Is this wrong? Are they really hating being with a guy who "knows the stuff"? Again, let's say that this is wrong and manipulative (which I don't think is). There are only two things you can do. You can either watch and hold a moral stand or join the ride. I agree that nice guy should be "the right way", but it is not. Time when women were courted and impressed by men has passed. Today, things are as they are. Jerks are getting all the cool girls, while nice guys are finishing last (if ever). These are the new rules of the Game.

Thirdly, girls are using same Game on us when they are checking us out. They use shit tests, wait last second to text us, flaking, playing hard to get (even she likes you)... Social conditioning at it's finest. When I am asked what is Game all about, it is using women psychology on women.

Lastly, if you are still having moral dilemmas, here is what you can do. When you leave a girl, leave her in a better state then you have found her. As simple as that. Only try not to get overboard and to an extreme known as a nice guy.

On a personal note, I have been struggling with these questions for a while when I was starting. I believed Game was wrong, a necessary evil. That I was not being myself. But let me tell you. Today, I like my "new", changed self. It has a better hold of it's life. My life has been richer than ever before. You might be thinking that I am making myself believe, but my friends are seeing improvements in my life. All is not nice and pretty, though. There were consequences.

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What is your opinion on Game morality? Share your story.

Oznake: game, morality

Why does this works?
I have recommended some reading in my "Where to Start From" post that gives a theoretical background of the Game. Here are a couple of highlights.
There are a couple of theories present today, but there are two aspects that shape us to be what we are today. Genes and environment (experience). .

Evolutionary theory
Let's talk about the genes first. Genes are a product of our heritage and evolution that has helped us to survive over millions of years. And our goal, from genes' point of view is to survive long enough to send them to new generation. As has been with each and every our ancestor (or we wouldn't be here today). Only problem with genes is that it takes more than a single lifespan of a generation for them to change. It takes a much, much longer. Thousands of years. Genes "learn" via the process of natural (sexual) selection (survival of the fittest). OK, so, what does this all has to do with the Game?

Our genes are not prepared for living in the world we are living today.

I have already written about our genes' heritage, their inadequacy for todays world.

But, we have what we have. By understanding the background, we can adopt.

Women seek in men what they lack and men seek in women what they lack. Women are the gatekeepers of sex and replication. This is the value we, men, seek. But evolution has played a nice trick on them. Their initial investment is much higher than ours. To clarify this I will show a couple of examples. First example is the quantity and size of reproductive cells - eggs and sperm. Women produces one egg each month. Men produce millions sperm cells each day. Also, from size point of view (e.g. investment), women are again at disadvantage. Because of this higher initial investment, women have to be choosy about their partners. Men don't have to. This is especially pronounced with homosexual couples. Gay couples are very promiscuous and approach to sex very early in their relationship. They also tend to change partners relatively often (e.g. bath houses). Lesbians on the other hand take a long, long time (months) to know their partner before becoming intimate (which is illogical since they can't get pregnant).

At this point, you must be asking what women want. They require safety which they lack. Men are better at psychical activities (in general). In a Savannah environment (for which our genes were prepared over a course of millions of years) men used to hunt and provide, women used take care of the household. Again, this can be seen at usual stereotypical man and women activities - men are better at e.g. driving (visual perception in the distance), women are better at taking care of others (attention to details). Since women are looking for safety, they are screening us during the attraction phase of the Game. (Unconsciously) women are testing us if we can protect them from all dangers in the world. This is why certain characteristics attract women. Same applies to men who are attracted to outer beauty, screening for good health which is associated with (e.g. certain hip to waist ratio).

OK, what does humor, for instance, have to do with safety? One would expect that big muscles are enough to provide safety, right?
This is true to a point. Women are attracted to physical attributes, but to an extent one would expect. They are attracted to our brains, meaning intellect. Confused?
Let me introduce you to a bird. A bird where male and female are very different animals regarding looks. Female are grey and plain, while male are beautiful with lots of colors (mostly blue and green) and giant, long tail. Guessed which bird I am talking about? Yes, this is the peacock.
So, what is the use of peacocks tail? To "show off" and seduce peahen, you say. Why does it work? Yes, it is beautiful, but there must be something else? Is there any other use for this, humongous tail? Hardly. Even, it is a penalty. Because, the longer the tail, animal is less manoeuvrable and easily to be seen and caught by a predator. So, what does it mean if there is a peacock with a large tail still alive? It means he was able to survive despite his large, penalizing tail. Gentlemen (and ladies), I present you the sexual ornament. Each male animal has one. It is characterized as a part of the body which puts an individual in danger (reducing survivability) but promotes sexual encounters (increasing reproducibility). There are many examples in nature, and it is usually some sort of ritualistic behaviour and/or body part.
What is our sexual ornament? It is our brains. Studies have shown that there is no explanation, from pure survival point of view, for the amount of resources our brains need (waste) compared to the rest of our body. There must be something else. And that is reproduction. Our intellect, our ability to outsmart our environment and our competitors in order to gain sexual services is the reason women are screening for leadership or for humor. And when talking about rituals that reduce survivability and increase reproducibility, think about how teenagers suddenly start to behave differently and how they they change their behaviour again after they exit their teenage years.

Environmental theory
Now that we understand how our genes influence our behaviour, let us look how our environment, our experience and how we were raised influences us today.
Compared to genes, an environment changes a lot faster. Within a generation or two there are new customs and social norms. For example, I used to play outside in a sandbox as a kid, my younger brother is hooked up to a PC whole day long (and there is a decade separating my and his generation).
Some of us were raised by both parents, some have not. Some were raised by their mothers only (or mostly). Mothers know only what women think they want (a nice guy). And those values have raised their sons by. I don't blame them, they didn't know better. Similar happens if a father was a nice (beta) guy (which usually is). Some were raised in tight religious environment where "being nice and polite" is encouraged no matter the consequences (but you will always have the moral victory, right?).
Other part is what we have picked up while growing up. Those initial experiences. Let's say we have two young boys (B1 & B2). They don't have any experience with girls and are just starting. B1 and B2 were raised similarly and have similar backgrounds and experiences. For the purpose of this discussion, they can be considered tabula rasa. B1 and B2 approach two girls. B1, by pure chance of luck manages to attract a girl. His confidence grows. B2 is not that lucky and fails. His confidence decreases. B1, encouraged by his encounter, and some experience he has gathered previously, tries again. He is more likely to succeed since his attitude (confidence) and experience are attractive. On the other hand we have B2 who is not so confidant and doesn't have B1's experience. He is more likely to fail. Fast Forwarding the time, using same (I agree pretty simplistic) principle we have two different guys, one who is successful with women and another one who is not. It is rather shocking how, a couple of simple experiences early in our lives influences the rest.

So, which theory applies?
Simply put, both. We can't change our genes, but learning about them, we can be aware of their influence and correct our behavior in order to get better experience.

The Game is a life changing concept. You have to become a better man in order to attract women.

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What do you think? Do you want certain topic elaborated more? Write in the comments.

Oznake: game theory, evolution, environment

Being a leader is more of an inner state that manifests outwardly.

Leadership is all about making decisions for others.

Take responsibilities for others and you will lead them.

Being a good leader is hard because you have to make risks by making decisions. You will make mistakes, but that doesn't matter as long as you learn something from them. It is important to make a decision.

You don't have to be a CEO or president to be a leader. Lead your peer group (you have friends - suggest some activities you can do together, organize those activities) and practice that way.

Lead men and women will follow. And they expect to follow your lead. Everywhere and every time. Especially during dates.
This leadership can be subtle (e.g. leading her by holding hands, or pushing her while opening the door) or direct (e.g. "We are going to that place"). This doesn't mean you don't listen to her or be a jerk. Make the decision and ask her feedback is perfectly normal.

Compare these two scenarios:

1.
He: Hi, are you up for a dinner tonight?
Her: Sure
He: Good, what would you like to eat?
Her: I don't know
He: I don't know either.
Her: I feel eating Italian tonight
He: Excellent, me to.
Her: Even better Chinese (note, this is a shit test)
He: Me to. Do you know a good restaurant?
Her: Yeah, let's go ___
He: Super, when would you like to meet?
Her: 8PM
He: Great, should I pick you up or will we meet there?
Her: ... (she should be rolling her eyes and regretting the whole thing by now)

2.
He: Hi, let's go and eat something tonight. (note statement, not question)
Her: Sure
He: Good, I am up for Italian but Chinese could pass. (you can give her a choice, nothing wrong with that)
Her: I would like Chinese.
He: I will pick you up at 8PM. Be ready (I would add, "and dress nice")
Her: I will.

First scenario was lead by her, second by him. This is the type leadership that girls are expecting.
Women are expecting men to lead. They *do not* want to be put into a leadership position. And if a guy is not leading, she is the only one left to.

What is your opinion? Write them in the comments.

Oznake: game, leadership

So, you will be having a girl at your place. Be prepared and make your life easier. Here are few tips:

Have a clean place
No dirty dishes or clothes laying around. Toilet is cleaned and nothing stinks. Your place reflects yourself (as does hers). If you are treating your body like a temple (which you are), so should your place.

Have an interesting place
I have a shelf dedicated to memorabilia from parts of my life. This was not put up for the sake of Game, but I like having memories with me. But it has helped on number of occasions (DHV).
I also have a bookshelf with various books (from grammars and management literature to light reading fiction).
I have a kinect. motion controlled games are excellent source of fun and help with kino escalation.
Under my coffee table I have magazines like "Men's health".
Head Massager is cool and cheap.
Picture Barney's apartment from How I Met Your Mother. He has a stormtrooper (bit geeky, but unusual) and Katana (porn collection is a bit too much) as DHV items. Not to mention that the rest of apartment looks cool and meanly.

Romantic stuff (sex facilitators)
Candles - I love candles and it sets such a romantic mood
LED furniture - modern candles. Turn lights off, LEDs on, throw couple of candles. Cool meets romantic.
Music - there needs to be a background music for the mood. It doesn't matter which (I have banged a chick with Game of Thrones in the background)
Scents - Attack all senses. have your place smell nice.
Always have a bottle of wine - Chick love wine. Also, have some girly drinks on stand by (for those who don't). If she is into beer, reconsider the bang, seriously.

Is there something else you are using? I would like to her it.

Oznake: game

So you managed to get a girl's number. Great! What do you do now?
Next step is to meet her. And before that? Arrange the logistics of the meeting.
Let's say that you have managed to build enough attraction when you have met her and used a couple of routines that she now finds you interesting. One of those that you should have used is a funny nick name. This is an essential link that will enable a smooth transaction into new conversation.

When do you do it? If I get a girl's number (or FB or mail) during weekend, I usually contact them on Tuesday. Do not contact them, under any circumstances the same night or following morning. Also, don't, after she gives you her number, "check if it works" or "I will call you so you can have mine". Just don't.

So, should you call or text?
Calling is dead. Today girls text, text and text some more. They don't call. I tried calling, but it didn't work as I would have wanted it. I prefer calling when there is some relationship going on and I can build rapport that way easily.
So, how complicated text should be?
As simple as possible, but with a some kind of twist. The twist comes from the nickname you gave her. Or the something you two came up with. Or from something you have been teasing her about (note, never tease about physical look, they tend to cry). The text should be about the logistics.
Here is an example:
Me:
Hi _insert nick name here_, _reference to the tease_ (e.g. Still planning on killing that girl? Should I start avoiding your part of town?) (The tease is a small bait that she has no problem answering to. It also helps you to see if she is near her phone and how quickly she responds. The quicker the better, reverse doesn't apply.)
Her: _Answer to the tease_ (e.g. Nah, I have bigger plans in mind like blowing something up) (Depending how rich (playful) her answer is, you will know how hooked she is. Also, how fast she answers. The more, the better, but reverse doesn't apply.)
Me: _Reference to the answer_ (e.g. Great, now I am on a FBI's watch list.) _Transition from the reference to the logistics_ (e.g. I think we should discuss details in person. Coffee Saturday afternoon? I will send you details a couple of days before) (Short and simple. Don't do long texts because they are better then you are. Jokes don't sound good because you can't calibrate and use your body language. The more you text, the more chance you have to screw something up. Also, notice that I didn't ask for the permission (Would you like to...). I am polite enough to use a question mark but that can be changed into comma (calibration). Also, I haven't ended my text with the question (keeping momentum going - I am telling her what to do)

Day before (or same day) I text with the details.
Me: Tomorrow, XXXX hrs, _place_
She: Ok, cya (Her text just came as I am writing this :))

So, you have a solid basis to start with. She likes you. If she didn't she wouldn't answer your text (or would give you incorrect number).
If girl doesn't show up (flakes) or cancels in last minute delete her number and newer speak to her. Do not believe any excuses unless you have slept with her (and then same rules often applies). If she makes an effort (such as contacting you) then give her another try.

The date.
First rule of date is to have a plan - a dateplan. Plan has to consist of activities you two are going to do. If you are thinking on the spot, you will be insecure and not a leader. Be prepared. Here is an outline of mine.
I don't do "regular" dates (go to dinners). I meet girls for a coffee at a bar (since that is very nonthreatening). There I continue with being cocky and funny (attraction build). Time has passed since she last saw you and you need to boost attraction again.
After an hour or so, I tell I have a chore to do (usually shopping) and I would like her to come along ("women's point of view"). There are a couple of reasons for this:
1. Venue change is good for comfort building.
2. She gets an opportunity to see me in a normal environment and activity.
3. I make an adventure out of it (I suggest her what to try, "she is helping me" vibe, more teasing and comfort building).

During this, second venue, I tone down with teasing (it is less frequent) I put more emphasis on comfort (by doing this chore she gets to know my likes and I get to know her). After going through couple of shops, we sit down for another drink (usually at the mall).

During this drink I suggest another bounce, something that is more romantic (isolated), such as a walk at the park/lake/city center... I want to bounce to a location that offers me more intimacy for deeper comfort building. If she agrees (and she will if you haven't screwed something up), I tell her that I have one more chore to do before we can leave. I buy something that I have to bring back home (like meat). I know what are you thinking, but you are wrong.

We bounce to my place ("I have to drop this, come up with me, here is hot/cold"). When we come, I show her around ("I would like your opinion on e.g. carpets/kitchen renovation/whatever"). After maximum half an hour, I suggest we go for a walk as we planned ("Enough snooping, let's go").
This is the catch. She was expecting me to make the move, but I didn't. As long as you are unpredictable, you will be attractive. Second thing I wanted to achieve was to show her my place and not to make such a big deal the next time when she comes (and it won't be for the carpets).

Then we go for a walk. During that we are in deep rapport and building more comfort. Certain vulnerabilities come up, but only a glance of them (e.g. something from childhood). I usually do the Cube or any other comfort building routine. We are getting to know each other. We are connecting. This is an excellent time for the kiss (if you haven't done it before).

Next bounce is my place ("It is getting darker and I am cold. I would love to continue this in a warmer environment. Let's go to my place. You have to try some excellent wine I picked up last week").
With each bounce, you should be getting closer and closer to your place. Last, comfort building place should be (ideally) waking distance away.

When you are at your place, bring up the wine (alcohol is a social lubricant). If she refuses to drink, that is a sign she is not ready jet. If she drinks, go on.
If she is not ready jet, you can build more comfort and rappor. One thing I do if she doesn't drink is to cook something (and have her help you) or even better, have her cook for you. Girls love to teach men do something and give advice. Second thing, we can watch some movies or play my kinect.
If she drinks, escalate to making out. In either case, have an romantic atmosphere (dimmed lights, candles, music, scents...).
During making out, you can escalate to sex.

This whole process can be spread through several dates. I seal the deal until date 3, but each date has to escalate and make progress. If it doesn't drop her. Usually it takes 7 hours from meeting to sex, says Mystery.

It is all about planning, leading and making an illusion that everything is happening flawlessly and fluidly so she can say "I can't believe this happened" or "I usually don't do this".

Have the plan!

Do you have something to add? Share your experience.

Oznake: game, date

Here is an excellent article about what areas you have to change in order to have a solid foundation for your Game.
One thing I would add is a link related use of porn and masturbation. Reuse the extra energy and time. Hit the gym!

Oznake: game

When learning new things it is easier when there is a systematic division into smaller parts that are then easier to understand (we are men, after all).

This model is roughly taken from Myster's 3M model. Many will argue that 3M is outdated (and techniques there generally are) but principals are valid and have remained the same.
I will give an overview of the model whose particular sections will be covered in depth later (e.g. the techniques).

There are three parts (phases) of the pickup:
Attraction
Comfort
Seduction

Goal of the Attraction is to spark the interest. You have the power to spark attraction in any and every women if you know how to play your cards right. David DeAngelo says “Attraction is not a choice” and that is the truth.
During the Attraction phase there are certain "milestones" you want to achieve.
You have to open and start the conversation. You want to continue the conversation and reach the hooking point when you will be no longer considered a stranger who is invading their privacy. You will be perceived as an interesting person who they have just met. These two are achieved with openers (who can be direct or indirect) and an interesting stories or routines (for indirect).

Second part is building attraction. Direct Game uses emotional surges, ups and downs to overwhelm the girl (aka the target). You could say "shock" her and transmit the message “I have chosen you”. For these to succeed you have to have a strong, manly, alpha sexual frame. Indirect Game slowly makes the target realize how cool you are and how is she starting to feel attracted to you. In both cases you are being cocky and funny, busting your target's balls, being interesting and (in)directly telegraphing your interest. Don’t chase, be chosen is a general rule (directly or indirectly). Turning social stereotypes around is a another good way.

When you notice your target is into you, you start with Comfort phase.

Comfort is built by intense rapport building. You want to connect with the girl. The amount of connection differs what do you want to achieve (SNL – basic comfort (e.g. “You are not a psychopath”), LTR – more comfort (e.g. she trusts you). During Comfort you two are getting to know each other. This is usually done during dating (although some basic comfort can be built at attraction, meeting location). At the beginning of Comfort, you are still being interesting using cocky & funny, ball busting and stories. But as this phase continues and you are getting into deep rapport, you tone it down (since you are dealing with more "serious", intimate topics). During comfort you still need to be a man she was attracted to. You are not a needy guy, telling your sad life story. You are still a dominant male who knows what to do and what he wants (alpha). You just want to get to know her. Here are some tips:
• Be consistent with what you were saying during attraction (e.g. hold your frame and congruency), aka your vibe. If you were perceived as an adventurer, you have to show her that (talking, planning an adventure together or having a mini adventure at the spot).
• Have your own thing. Something that only exists between your two like nickname (strongly recommend) or future plans.
• Venue changing creates an illusion that much time has passed and thus she feels more comfortable with you.
• Talking about past also creates the same time passing illusion.
• Have her qualify to you by asking a qualification questions. Here are my favorites: “What is your most memorable experience that makes you what you are today?”, “Beauty is temporarily. If everyone here would look exactly like you, how would you differ?” or simple ones like “Do you cook?”. Basically you are making her qualify to you (since you are a cool alpha guy).
• Be somehow mysterious and little distant. Do not verbalize what are you doing and why. Only moment you can verbalize is an awkward one (as part of cocky and funny). I am very experienced in cold reading but my problem was that sometimes girls would know I was reading them and that would freak them out (and not in a good way).
• Comfort building routines like Cube, palm reading (and generally cold reading routines), Eliciting Values Routines, Kill/Fuck/Marry routine...

Depending how much rapport and comfort you have built, there will be a stronger or weaker connection. Weak or strong is not an absolute. If you are going for an SNL, you have to build an intense connection which will result in “I usually don’t do this” type rationalization (hamster ftw). But that kind of connection is weak considering longevity (aka LTR potential). Nevertheless, this connection has to lead either to intimacy or friendship zone. The difference is what message you have been sending (either sexual or friendly). Kino escalation helps sending a clear message (there will be a separate topic). Comfort building usually lasts the longest over multiple dates (for LTR kind of Game).

Intimacy is an introduction to seduction and is done at intimate (sex) location. Usually there is heavy making involved, fingering (foreplay) and sex itself. One important thing to overcome before sex is Last Minute Resistance (LMR). There are two kinds of “No” a girl can give you: a token no which is a shit test (successfully passed by continuing) and LMR (it-is-to-early) no. You are probably asking yourself, how you will know the difference. Well, experience, but until you have some, just treat it as a token no (better to apologize then to ask permission). If kind, soft “no” (usually the token one) starts to be louder, serious “no”, and then it is the LMR one. LMR is best solved like you don’t care (as most shit tests). “It is OK babe, I understand”. Kill romantic atmosphere (e.g. candles, music) and do something boring (like check your mail, cell phone, FB, continue watching a movie). She will be confused and slightly irritated why you aren’t chasing after her. If she comes back (and usually she will), continue, but make her to take off a part of clothing that triggered the LMR (bra, panties…). Escalation ramp by Vin Dicarlo is gold. After you have delt with LMR, last step is, well,…have fun. :) Remember to be responsible. (there is a LMR routine that works every time, but you have to bribe me in order to tell you :p)

One important thing to remember is that there is no clear border between steps and phases. You don’t say at one point “now we start with intimacy, please stand by”. Whole experience has to be fluid. You have to have a plan. A Game plan.

Oznake: game

There are many Game types and subtypes but roughly Game types are:
• Day Game and Night Game
• Indirect and Direct Game

Day and Night Game
As you probably suspect, this is the way the Game is played depending on the time of day (and venue). 90% of all materials you are going to read and study on the Internet deals with what to do in bars, clubs and during night. These are Night Game materials and techniques. Day Game deals with approaches during a day, in everyday situations, like coffee shops, super markets, street, gym...

The difference between the Games is the pace.
During night, at clubs and bars, girls are expected to be approached, flirted with and picked up. Main strategy of the Night Game is to differentiate yourself from the dozens of guys who are doing the same thing (usually nothing and if something, needy and wrong). David DeAngelo said that "night clubs are a virtual reality". Social dynamics in clubs are not real, everyday dynamics. They are much faster and aggressive, it is normal to meet strangers, talks to them, dance with, kiss them, and SNL. Thus Night Game has a much faster pace.

Day Game is meeting women during the day, while they are living their "normal", boring, everyday lives. Things that are normal during night are not so common during day. Women are not expected to be flirted with or picked up during the day. Venue for the Day Game is everything, from streets to malls, from buses to libraries, virtually any social event (except clubs, when you are “going out”). Using same approach that is normal during the night might be (and usually is) devastating during the day (nags for example).

When there is a difference in gaming style that is considering in showing your intentions, there is Direct and Indirect Game.
Direct Game explicitly sends a sexual message and telegraphs interest in the girl. Direct openers range from simple "Hi!" to "You look sexy". Direct Game is much more charged with energy and much faster paced than Indirect. Indirect Game relies on not showing interest until a girl shows interest first (but you are interesting and attractive). To use these descriptions, in Indirect Game you are trying to sell yourself and convince her that she needs you, in Direct you are the one making a choice. Direct Game is thus more suited for Night Game and Indirect for Day Game and other social occasions. Currently, there is an upcoming trend that is a mixture of both.

I suppose you are thinking "Which one is better?". Each type has its ups and downs, place and time. Indirect game is faster and produces results faster, but it burns the sets faster (you will open more sets, but most of them will end up rejecting you, especially if you don’t calibrate well). With Indirect you will have to invest much more time, which, if miscalculated and you get rejected, will end up wasted. Direct plays more a numbers game then Indirect. Indirect is slower and considered easier and more suitable for beginners. Direct leaves less room for error, requires tighter Game and more experience (more confidence).

Night Game is more usual one since it is an expected place for the pickup. Both Direct and Indirect can be played during the night, although I would give advantage to the Direct because of time constraints and since it is more physical (more kino), it is better suited for the clubs (which are loud and suitable for dancing). Indirect is much more based on talking, thus more subtle for the day and social gatherings (exception is bars).

So, which Game is better? That depends on your personality type. I personally don't like or have time to go out to clubs every week but meet new people all the time. This is why Day Indirect Game suits me more. This doesn't mean I don't game during the night. Most of the principals are the same for all types, there is only a matter of pacing and calibration. When there is a difference, I will note it, but generally, I will be talking about Day Indirect Game.

Another point I want to address is the quality of women you meet during day and night. During night, quality is not as high (in terms of LTR possibilities) but things escalate much faster. During day, it is the opposite. I have hooked up with models during the night, but couldn't date them or consider them more then nice accessory. During day I picked PhD or MBA chicks, but things took ages to escalate. Currently I am mixing with 70% Day and 30% Night Game (just because of the logistics and time constraints mentioned before).

Recommended reading is:
Bang (by Roosh) for night game
Day Bang (by Roosh) for indirect day game
Daygame Nitro (by Krauser) for direct day game (advanced stuff)

Real life was an attention whore last couple of months. Now, everything is better and let's continue. Today's topic is a real life changer. How to deal with rejections. Context here is the Game and approaching but you can (as I have) apply it to your life in general.

One of the first fears you are going to deal with, besides approach anxiety (AA), is fear of rejection.
This fear manifest on two major occasions during your pickup.
First, together with AA, you rationalize that "she has a boyfriend", " she wouldn’t be interested in you", " you don't want to bother her"... These are all manifestations of fear of rejection. And if you are rejected, you must be a failure. It is easier not to approach then get rejected. Right?

Wrong!

Ok, so you have managed to get past AA and you have started talking to her. Now you are trying your best to please her (e.g. "May I buy you a drink?", "Where do you want to go?", "I have bought you some flowers."). Because then she is going to like you. If she doesn't, she will reject you. And you don't want that. Right?

Try to guess this one?

These are all bad advices and scenarios that most "no game" guys operate by. Goal is to get rid you of fear of rejection. Rejection is normal. No matter how good your game is, you are going to get rejected. And it is not your fault. You might not be something she is looking for. You might be a BMW, but she is looking for an Audi. You can’t please everyone in the world. And you don’t have to and shouldn’t. Do not let random strangers dictate who you are or be a measure of your success.

Secondly, girls are lot better at reading nonverbal and verbal signs. Men are usually…deaf. This results in a ton of rejections on her part. She wasn't complemented on her cooking -> rejected. He didn't turn to check her out -> rejected. "Do I look fat in this?", need more? Women are constantly rejected and we don't even know it. So don't feel bad if you get rejected from time to time. It is normal. Life is not a kindergarten where everyone tries not to hurt your feelings.

The Game is ultimately a numbers game. Rejection is a normal part of the process.
In time you will not care. You will know what you are looking for. There are a plenty fish in the sea. As you get even better you will be able to screen for (cold read) your type of women and rejections will decrease even more. But for time being, practice and you will get accustom to it.

This is a topic that supersedes the Game. It will improve your everyday, "normal" life.
Do you have problems keeping the conversation? You see your friends who can just talk about everything for hours?
Here are some tips you can try.

Be Interesting
When speaking about attraction, there are subjects that should be avoided. They are either boring and not attractive (e.g. weather) or tend to provoke quarrel (e.g. religion, politics). Talking about the job gave me some mixed results and it is a topic that will sooner or later come up. So what to do when it does?
First, never pop that question ("So what do you do for living?"). It will come by itself.

If you are in a Night Game scenario (aka clubs) say something that doesn't make sense like (by Mystery):
-hand model ("Can't you see how beautiful my nails are?")
-shark wrestler ("Those great whites throw a hard punch")
-bank robber ("And I need someone to help me with my next gig")
-double agent ("And I need your help to seduce a high ranking official")
-"You would not believe my if I told you"

I sometimes use it during a Day Game scenario, but for the Night Game it is a must (and depending on the girl, I will tease more or less).

Then, if she insists, I will tell her what I do. But that will not be my title and job position. I will have an interesting story to tell. Here is an example:

"I really don't like taking about my job. It is not that interesting subject. But since you asked. You see, I work for a large evil multinational company. I know what are you thinking, but it is better to be friends with them than fight them. Sue me. I work for a R&D department and when my company wants something developed, it buys it. My job is not to buy a shit." Then I take a glass or something that is near and explain the whole process as if we were buying that something customized. It is a nice story, problem is that I can't build any sexual aspects into it (as with my other DHV stories). But since this question usually pops early in the conversation it is OK.

Second, read. Read about what is going on in the world, your country, city, village,... Read books. It doesn't matter what are they about, but you will be more interesting than if you only watch TV. I read a book like this just for fun. And you would not imagine how often something from that book comes up handy in a conversation (you don't have to memories the entire book, my brain just likes to remember useless information).

Third, travel. There is no better way to have an interesting life the travelling. Travel as far as you can. I was lucky enough to see most of Europe while in high school. And that travelling (without me realizing) enriched my life. While travelling you get to experience other cultures and different way of life. And there is always going to be at least one interesting story. I didn't realize how many I had until I started playing the Game.

Lead the Conversation
Be able to lead the conversation where you want it to go. There are two tricks that help with this.
First, open multiple threads. Open up to a couple of threads when talking. Don't be afraid to jump from subject to subject even though previous subject was not finished. This leaves you a subject to jump back to when one finishes (or gets awkward). There are no those unpleasant silences (although silence should never be unpleasant).

Second, don't be afraid to cut someone's (or your's) thread. When I see that conversation is not heading where I want it to go, I will open a new thread (thus cutting the existing one) or just say something like "This topic is boring, can't you guys talk about nothing except..." (usually it is the job). Then they ask me what should we talk about and I have a couple of interesting topics (e.g. social dynamics, sex, etc).

The Conversation Algorithm
I was born with the art of rambling. But it took me a while to fine tune it. And I used this technique. (by B-Fusion)

Firstly, you can always have some conversation topics prepared. They can also be routines, openers and gambits. When you are an absolute beginner, use routines you read about on sites like this (aka canned material). Then from time, as you get better, you will modify these materials and start making yours. Example would be the customized "job story" with DHV spikes (or any DHV story based on your experience).

Secondly, become a good listener. Communicating is not only exchanging information. It is also noticing how others interpret exchanged information. That is an area women are usually better then men. One can easily improve this by analyzing key words in sentences. Let me give you an example. HB: "I just came from trip where I was visiting my aunt in Paris". You can start at least three threads from this sentence about: trip, aunt and Paris. E.g. "You travel a lot?", "Having relatives abroad is handy, I have some in...?" or "I didn't know you were part French.", "I was in Paris..." or "I would like to visit Paris, how is it?" or another million Paris related topics. This is an excellent way to jump to another topic. You might have noticed that not all key words are equally important. Trip to Paris carries much more importance then having an aunt there (it is more important for the HB). But they can be equally used to continue conversation.
When using this technique (and conversing in general) don't machine gun questions. Conversation in not an interview (although good interviews should not machine gun questions either). Ideally, ask your question then rumble about something. Then rumble some more and then ask another question. This is how natural conversation looks like. (by Roosh)

Thirdly, silence is your friend. There is nothing wrong with silence. Insecure people tend to find silence unpleasant ("OMG, was my performance interesting enough?"). Use silence to your advantage:
-You have time to sort your thoughts and think about what say next.
-Alpha behavior is not an insecure one and that is telegraphed by silence.
-It builds tension which is good (tension buildup and release is a key to attraction).


These are general notes about making a good conversation. I didn't go purposely about any particular gambit or at which part of the interaction you should use what kind of conversation. These will be covered in future topics.
Try this and let me know if it helped.

It has been a while since my last post. I had some health issues but they are being taken care of.

Just a quick "motivational post" about what happens when you reach a certain (rookie) level of the Game. I would say I am pretty good at being cocky and funny and it became my modus operandi for social occasions.
Before I went to vacation, I was pinged by one of my oneits with usual "Haven't heard anything from you in a while. Would you like to garb a cup of coffee?". I said no problem, since I have resolved any issues I had. During the whole encounter I was interesting as I always am (cocky & funny). Soon we were tackling the topic of going out and dating. We were commenting all bad openers guys here use (most of them have no Game at all) and what they should have done. Also we were discussing what, how and why women want when going out (hint: not drinks, just interesting stories). Idea behind this discussion of ours was to subtle tell her "I get it now". And it worked. She has good Game. She used multiple False Time Constraints (FTA) but those were just shit tests. She could not have enough of me and leave. Eventually her phone rang and I, realizing she has to go, chased her away. Next week while I was at vacation, she was coming to the city I was just leaving inviting me to go with her and her girls out. I said no (not part of my plans). Next day she invited me to the nearby island which was halfway from my new location and where she was. I denied that invitation as well. We were supposed to go out last night bowling but because I am having mentioned health issues I couldn't. But I invited them all to come for a drink after the game. I also invited some other friends earlier to keep me company. When they came, my apartment was already full of people (DHV, btw). And they were surprised ("Are you having a party?"). There was one girl that sat next to me and started questioning me about my apartment, my job my life and everything. I talked to her a bit, talked to others while ignoring her and never missed an opportunity to bust her balls. Everyone was laughing and having a good time. She had good vibe and was getting into me but since it was the middle of the week they had to leave. We spent another half an hour "leaving" and cracking jokes in the hall. It was fun and she is into me and I plan to continue where we stopped. Since I can't get out to meet new people, it is nice when they come to you.

What is the moral of this story?
If you are considered a cool guy, people will come to you. And it gets that much easier. Game will reward you for your effort and it is upwards spiral from there on. Things just get better and better as well as you do. It is worth every second, every frustration, every rejection.

Game is *NOT* only about picking girls. It is about becoming a better man.

Oznake: game

I am starting a new series called Lessons Learned. What is it about?
Recently, I was talking to a friend, who is also a student of the Red Pill, about those big "I get it now" moments. This series is going to be about them. I will write about them as they come and also will try to remember the old ones.

Recently I gamed a girl. I would put her as high 7. It was a very solid game that resulted in a bang after three seeings (dates?). Then she invited me to come to visit her while I was touring the coast. Why not, I thought to myself (this whole Game thing is starting to pay even more).
A day before I came to her, we texted. I wanted her to be in a sexual mood (I was expecting another bang). Since I decided to put her in MLTR category (she seemed good enough to keep - smart girl with good, tight body, living relatively close to my place, wants to learn new things that please me) and since we were already post bang phase, my Nice Guy me kicked in.
When you read all the materials about the Game, they usually end with the bang. They don't talk about "what after" (except for the one book, on the last page, last paragraph). I agree with Neil. But the Game does not end after the bang because it is still not a relationship. What did I do wrong?
I was nice. I really wanted to help that girl. She is very intelligent and smart but shy. She is wasting her potential over-thinking about what others think about her and hiding inside her comfort zone bubble. I thought being nice (and romantic) with a push here and there would help her. I was so wrong.
Don't get me wrong, I really enjoyed a day without gaming (it was a busy week) and spending time with a girl I liked. It was romantic day. We drank cocktails, watched sunset while entangled in each other, in the evening we went for a walk. I would stop suddenly and start dancing with her. We went to all cool places in the town looking for a place to dance. As the night was turning into morning, we started talking about all kinky stuff we are going to do to each other. Sex was a logical conclusion to the evening. She even suggested ditching last club so we can go to her place. It was on, at least logically.
We came to her place and started making out. Passionately. Suddenly, she stopped me and told she needs to go to the bathroom. I laid at the bed expecting her to jump at me when she returns. When she did, she said she was tired and wanted to go to sleep and laid to her bed. I was so confused. I started undressing her but she turned to side blocking me. Then alarms started ringing. This was "I will deny you sex" shit test. This world is so screwed. But it is how it is.
I thought to myself what are my options - I can stay or leave. I choose the latter. I dressed and said I was going for a drink. She said OK. I came two hours later, undressed and went to bed (I was travelling in the morning). When I woke, I started packing not saying a word. She asked me what it was, I just commented "There are certain things I will not tolerate". When I finished, I went to my car, she was following me whole way trying to provoke my reaction (my body language was rock solid, unreadable). I came to the car, waved at her with a nice fake smile and drove away.
She sent me some pathetic message about it all being my fault. I ignored it.

Nice Guy died that day. Or at least the elimination process started.

A week after, I sent her a text asking her to apologize if she wants to see me again. (Back to the Game and see where this could lead. I have nothing to loose.) She did. A couple of minutes ago.
I will see where it is all going to lead, but for now, I will Game her more. That will not be nice at all.

Women are much, much better at the Game then we are (at least before we learn it).
They are naturals. Why?

While we, as boys, played football (stereotypical, isn't it?) what did girls do? They played "moms", "housewives", "teachers", they chatted and gossiped. They practiced their social skills. They quickly learned the rules of social dynamics (which for most part we know as Game). If Game would be described in one sentence, this would be it:

"Game is using women psychology on women!"

And most of them are really good at it (even those who are not are better then most men).

Here is an example that came from my friend.
He is a nice guy, really nice guy. And he thinks like one. He thinks like a man, and that is logically. Women think differently - emotionally. This doesn't mean they are illogical, but it is emotions, not logic, that drives them. Common Game example would be buying a girl you are interested in a drink at a bar (after approaching, of course). Nice Guy's (logical) thinking would be: "I bought her a drink, (logically) she should be grateful". Her thinking would be: "I really don't care about the drink that much, this guy is giving me the creeps". One of my female friends is a really good gamer. She does a lot of Game stuff intentionally with excellent performance. She told me "The best drink can't compare to a good story". Stories have emotions, drinks don't.

I derailed a bit. Here is my friend's example (let's call him Andy from now on):
Andy's sister introduced him to a friend of her's and there was instant chemistry (let's call her Mia). They liked each other, but she started playing him and giving him shit tests. Shit test is a test where HB test a guy in order to asses his congruence and to see how much she can influence him. Nice Guys do as asked thinking (logically) that this will please a HB, but in reality they loose any attraction they had. In order to understand what is a shit test and what is not ask yourself: "Would I do this for my colleague or not very close friend?" or "Does doing this make sense?". A bit more comprehensive rule of thumb is this: If a woman is making a request of a man and it is the sort of request that you would normally grant if one of your close male friends was making it, it is not a test and should not be treated like one. On the other hand, if a woman makes an uncivil demand of you, it may or may not be a test, but in either case, it is best treated with contempt and ignored.

More on shit tests read this and this (both female writers). (brought by Igniss).

He was, like any Nice Guy, complying with her tests. Luckily, Andy is not stupid, so he put his foot down at one point (resulted in Mia accusing him of a lot not nice things). This resulted in Mia not loosing interest in him, but she was still playing games. Andy tried sorting things up and tried to arrange a meeting (despite my advices). There were some logistical issues (they live in different cities and it is a holiday season). So the "issue" was left unsolved. Andy was at a social gathering where he noticed Mia. She noticed him, but pretended she didn't. At one point she had to walk by Andy and he used this opportunity to say "Hi". She pretended she didn't hear him. (comment: he broadcasted interested, she ignored, making him chase her; nothing unusual when HB knows you are after her) While they were standing as a part of the gathering, Mia was evading eye contact. (looking disinterested, more chasing) Andy then called her by name and said hi. She responded. (because it would be awkward ignoring him further, this was not a nightclub but a social event; others know they know each other) But after that she turned her head away. ("Chase me a little bit more!") Half an hour later, Andy walked to Mia. ("See, I knew he would come") They started a conversation where Mia told him she doesn't want to talk here. (I hope you are getting this by now) Andy had enough (finally), took Mia aside and started talking. She said to ignore everything she is saying because she had a drink or two. He called her on her BS (good job) and said he only wants a minute of polite behavior. He asked her if there is anything they need to discuss (referencing to all shit test hoops she was making him jump through). Mia said: "I don't know. Do we?". Andy told her it was his question and he is expecting an answer. She asked again "What was the question". (unless she was hammered, and I don't think so, she was BS-ing) Andy's answer was brilliant: "I asked for a minute, and that minute has passed. Good bye" and he walked away. (nice) She messaged him later that she is coming to his city and she would like to meet him (but only if he behaves). (still interested, but presenting another shit test) He responded arranging logistics ignoring her comment.

Andy's finish was brilliant, but his behavior in general was not congruent (first you are chasing, then you are not tolerating shit any more). This is why Mia is still interested in him but giving him hard time (playing with his emotions).

What he could have done better?
First recognize the facts - she is interested and she is testing you. Being interested is something that can be used to further increase attraction and make Mia stop playing games. Test should be handled like shit tests. See how big hoop is she has presented and then find a equal or bigger one for her. It is OK to jump through a hoop as long as she jumps first and as long as you stay congruent with your behavior ("Is this something I usually would not have problems doing?"). Another possible response is to ignore the test and proceed like it didn't happen. This also sends a powerful message that you have your way and will not be played with. A mixture of both is optimal.
Second thing is to act. Use her interest to boost attraction and blaze through her shit tests. Instant attraction.

Back on the subject of why being a Nice Guy (or a my personal favorite - Being Yourself) won't work. It is not attractive. Women *DO NOT* want someone nice, they want someone who is going to attract them, someone who they feel safe with ("If you are jumping through her hoops like a little puppy, will you be able to resist some real danger?"). Guys, give them *THAT* man.

Is it normal that women don't want nice guys? Logically no, but this is not how Game is played.

And yes, Nice Guys always finish last.

Oznake: game, shit test, needy

This subject I hold very dear since it is the first one I that got me learning about social dynamics (in general).
Studying body language has been my hobby for more then two years now and it is one of the skills I started my Game with. But knowing theory and applying it to the real world situations are two different things.
There are two aspects of body language that affect your Game. First (and easier one) is your body language. Here are few simple tips that will improve your Game in a blink:
1. Stand up straight with shoulders slightly rotated to the back, puffing your chest a little bit. Don't overdo it since you will be looking like a tryhard.
2. Don't look at your shoes while walking or talking. Your head should be up.
3. Smile. Especially when starting conversations. Don't keep smiling whole time since it will look fake and weird (e.g. flight attendants). Ask yourself: "Is it normal to smile now?". If you are meeting someone new, it is. If you are asking about the problem you are facing (aka serious subject), it is not.
4. While sitting, lean back. Even when you are having conversation with people. Even if it is loud. Other people will lean in towards you thus showing interest (IOI). This is the most common mistake guys make. They are interested in a girl and they show it by leaning in. Girls, who are much better at social dynamics then guys, interpret it as needy.
5. Don't fidget and avoid fast movements. A confident person does not need to move a lot in order to attract attention. Moving a lot also shows nervousness (or neediness).
6. Make and hold eye contact while approaching and especially while talking to people. More advanced version of this technique is to break eye contact while talking to further show your confidence (and disinterest in the other party). Try not breaking eye contact until you are calibrated enough to know when, where and with whom you can do it in order to boost attraction. When breaking eye contact, break it sideways. Never break eye contact downwards.
7. If I had to give you one general tip about body language and confidence it would be this one: Confidant people tend to use (more) space (then they really need). So, when walking, take wide steps (again, don't look ridiculous). When standing, either stand with legs standing apart (roughly same width as your hips) or have legs crossed (while leaned against something). First stance shows "ready for action", second one indicates comfort.
8. Don't know what to do with your arms? Here is what *not* to: Keep them behind the back or (even worse) cross them. Default position should be having them relaxed next to your pockets with fingers slightly bend inwards (what actually happens when you relax your arm while standing up straight).
9. Don't put your hands in your pockets.
10. When holding objects (such as a drink in a bar) and talking to someone, hold it sideways and not in front of you. You don't want to create a barrier between you and person you are talking to (same logic applies with crossed arms).

These are general guidelines and there are exceptions to some of them.
Improving your body language can improve your looks (and attraction) tremendously.

Here is an interesting article you should read.
For more comprehensive information about body language I suggest watching David DeAngelo's Body Language program.

Second aspect is all about reading HB's body language. This one takes time and practice. Basically, you need to learn about body language and how to use it. Here are some general rules:

1. Observe and observe actively!
Be active observer. Notice body language changes. You don't have to understand at first what they mean, just noticing that something is going on, is excellent (and the hardest part about reading body language).

2. Observe in context!
Crossed arms means unfriendly? Maybe. But what if it is cold? Maybe her arms are cold.

3. Learn universal tells
This one is hard to explain in a couple of sentences. Those regarding attraction are these:
Is she laughing (after you deliver a joke, also, don't laugh to your own jokes)?
Is she regulatory playing with her hair (after you said something)?
Is she looking at your lips (regularly)?
Is she facing you directly?
Is she mirroring your body language (mimicking your movements)?
Is she touching you? (this is a big one)
One hard tell to catch is a pupil dilation (don't bother if you don't see it).
Note that these tells will start happening as you become more attracted to her.

4. Observe unique tells
Everyone has unique tells. Maybe she likes to keep her arms crossed?

5. Establish a baseline first
While approaching and opening, you might have triggered her resistance (bitch) shield. Also, girls (especially in night clubs) are not their real selves. Night clubs are a virtual world, says David D, and I tend to agree. Reading is easier when you establish a baseline behavior first and then notice changes.

6. Tells are usually grouped
If you are doing things wright, she will be smiling, facing towards you while playing with hair and punching you in the arm.

7. (Sudden) Change what are you looking for (when screwing up)
This will usually happen when you did something wrong. She will suddenly close (you did terribly wrong) or start closing. Attraction is very easily lost. That is why we calibrate our behavior with each new HB.

8. The tells can be learned
Remind me, what are you doing right now again?

9. It all boils down to comfort and discomfort
All body language tells can be sorted in two categories: they show comfort of discomfort. Confidant body language equals comfort, needy shows discomfort. This way it is easier to read. After you do the read, think why is she showing comfort or discomfort.

10. Be subtle while observing
I gamed girls while talking about psychology and body language, but this is a double edged sword. Sometimes they tend to freak out (anyone tried dating a psychologist?). Never tell about your knowledge early on (during attraction). It kills mystery HBs are crazy about. Whole purpose about body language is to demonstrate that "you get it" without telling her directly. You can start talking about psychology to show "how deep you are" but newer tell something like "you suddenly closed (crossed arms), because I did that and that".

This is body language in a nutshell. If you are more interested in the subject, I highly recommend you start with What Every Body is Saying by Joe Navarro.
Also note that this is a tool that can be used not only while gaming, but in everyday life.

We as a species are social creatures. As social creatures we tend to live (especially today) in large groups. As within every group, sooner or later, some kind of hierarchy occurs. At work, you have your boss who has his boss and so on. At home you (usually) have a father who is "the boss" then mother, then children (at least until they reach puberty). In social situations (or better say circles) some people are considered more cool then others. One is more cool if his/her social status is higher. Also, people have no problem accepting their social status even if it is not high (or as high as they would have wanted).
Before I start with the social status and the Game, here is one experiment I read about:
There were 50 students participating in the experiment. Each student was given a card corresponding with number 1 to 50. Students did not know what their number was. Each student taped his card to his forehead so that everybody else could see it. Students were told to pair with the highest possible number. Soon, students with higher numbers noticed high interest. Students who realized their number was lover (no great interest), started compromising and looked for not-so-high numbers. Soon, hierarchy was formed and students roughly paired with equal numbers.
If you still haven't figured out, substitute numbers with social status and you basically have social dynamics 101 figured. Only difference is how that number is gained.

Outer Game is all about gaining social status. Note, I am not assuming your social status is low, but when entering completely new group, it is not high either (remember first day at your first work).
Inner Game is about quality (being a better person), Outer Game is presenting those qualities in order to gain social status.

When girls bang rock stars in the backstage, they are banging their social status.

How to gain social status?
There are a lot of ways you can gain or loos social status. Some are:
Self-confidence
Looks
Body Language
Playful attitude, cocky & funny
Not being needy and clingy
Be interesting
Be a leader
Building and releasing tension (by being unpredictable)
Don't chase, let them chase you
Speak slowly with deep voice, use pauses

I will work all these subjects as separate topics. For now, just get the idea what is social status all about. It is the key to attracting women. As David DeAngelo said, attraction is not a choice.

Oznake: game, social status

Short answer would be: "I'm rubber you're glue, your words bounce off me and stick to you."
But that's easier said that done.
Reasoning again is not to consider yourself with everybody's opinions.

One simple trick I am doing when someone is trying to provoke me. I picked this up from Erik von Markovik (aka Mystery). He is one of the founders of modern Game theory. So, here it is:

When someone tries to provoke you or insult you, blow it out of proportions.

Again, easier said then done. But let us consider the alternatives.
If you ignore the insult, you might be considered "weak" and your social status will decline. Ignoring the insult is OK when your social status is so high that a person insulting you will look like tryhard. (more on social status in separate topic)
Another alternative is to bounce the insult back, but that requires some degree of wit. It will come as you become more social. If not done correctly, it will look as tryhard.
Third alternative (and worst of all) it to start arguing (and become defensive). This is usually what everyone usually does and shows immaturity. Think of one of your friends who is easily insulted. How easygoing is he/she? Do you like being in his/her company? How does the situation looks like when someone tries to make a joke at his/her expense. I bet it is awkward for couple of seconds at least.

My personal favorite (in social situations) is blowing thing out of proportions. It sends the following messages: "I am not insecure by being easily insulted and I like being playful and have no trouble joking at my own expense." It also gives me the right to make a joke at sender's expense. Example: A:"Your nose is huge!", M: "You should have seen it before I did the nose job. OMG, I considered a career as a blood hound. Also I got a discount for the boob job. Btw, I can recommend you to the doctor! He will give you the same discount."

In business situations insults are very unlikely and when they occur you should have an adult approach (ignoring or telling that is not the way to do business).

While joking at one's own expense, newer use self-deprecating humor. It is OK to spin insults to humor but to insult yourself by joking is not OK. Basically self-deprecating humor looks for audience's pity and that is not the message you want to send ("Look at me how sad I am, hahaha").

You have decided to change and work on yourself.

Excellent!

But there will be consequences. People you hang out (aka friends) will see you change. They will not be used to new you (or for time being changing you). It will be strange. People tend to resist changes. So will you friends. They will tell you that you have changed and they don't like it. You will suddenly be interested in different things. Things they have no interest of. Things you were not interested in (so much) before the change (music, clothes, psychology, partying, girls,...). Some friendships will suffer. You can try to work them out but don't let it stop you.

That is the consequence of change.

But those closest to you will understand and will support you. That is why they are your best friends and family. Listen what they have to say. Ignore those who resist the change. Change is outside your comfort zone.

Outer Game is another gigantic subject. Topics regarding the Game will usually be spit into inner or outer Game category.
Let's start with an easy subject. Outer appearance.

Unfortunately people judge us (and we judge them) by appearances first. But that is normal since we don't have any other information we can work with. This is why appearance matters. Not a lot, but it helps. Game is consisted of many small parts that add together.
If you are new to the Game, you are probably not a fashion designer and don't know much about fashion. That is OK. You will learn.

First stop your mother dressing you! Or stop dressing like your mother would dress you (or (ex)wife). It is easier when someone else dresses you but you are not a kid anymore!

What can you do?

You can copy others. You don't have to reinvent the wheel. Copy those whose style you like AND who are considered cool. Dress stereotypically. You want to use positive stereotypes. If you are a business man dress like one (but a cool one). If you are a rapper, and live for rap music, dress like one.
Go to the night clubs and see what are "cool guys" (those with hot girls) wearing. Copy.

I know what are you thinking: "This will cost me hundreds of $$ (or €€)". No it will not. There are a lot of affordable shops that sell currently cool clothes. I personally don't like online cloth shopping, but am considering it more and more. Look for great deals, you don't have to buy everything now (for time being buy one cool outfit you can wear when going out). You don't have to wear brands (although it will not hurt). Look at your cool friends. Ask you female friends to help you out (go shopping with them).

Clothes is one of the first things where your friends will notice the change. Don't get provoked or discouraged. They will get used to it. I was called "hipster" or "gay" on more then one occasion, but as long I am getting my share of girls (Game slang is HB - hot babe), I don't mind.

When you have found out what style suits you, experiment. Don't be like 99% of other guys out there (and you probably won't be because you copied the "cool" guys). Try with different stuff, the stuff you didn't even dream trying a couple months ago. It will look strange (at first), but give it enough time and ask others (girls) what they think about it. You will notice their responses are not as bad as you thought. Being different sets you apart and that is one of the aspects of the Game you want. People in any social event are in one of two groups. They are either observing or being observed. You want to be in the second one. Those being observed are perceived as leaders and their social value is high (more on this topic later). People want to be in their presence. They are "interesting" people. Try thinking about one of your friends, colleagues or acquaintances who is considered interesting or cool by you and your peers. That is who I am talking bout.

But to get back on the subject of clothing, here are some fresh general rules.

Clothes is one thing where you can relatively fast achieve good results. Another is hair and beard.
Regarding beard, there is one easy tip for begging: loose it. Just that. When you find looks that suits you, please be free to experiment. But until then, beard usually looks creepy.
Regarding hair, there is no rule, as long as it is tidy and orderly. If you have no idea, go to your regular dress salon and let your hairdresser experiment. If you still don't know, go to one of those 50$ hairdressers and when you get the hairstyle you like, go to your regular and show her (him?) what you want.

Third part of the equation is your body. This one takes more time. "In healthy body, healthy mind". If you are not satisfied with your looks, do something about it. Hit the gym and change your diet. I am very against diets as food reduction, I am more for start using more calories (aka the gym) and split your meals to more smaller ones (I tend to have 5 or 6 per day). This way I am never hungry but I also never overeat (it is all about self-control which is tough).
One of biggest mistakes I made when I started changing my body was a heavy food reduction). I reduced all my meals to half (back then I had 3) and cut off all sweets (plus regular exercise). I lost 20 kg in 3 months. That was not healthy. I am having much more trouble now when I am trying to gain muscles (which are heavier then fat, FYI). I should have just split the meals and started eating healthier while exercising.
Today, I try to watch what I am eating. That doesn't mean I will not go to MacDonalds, but will try to avoid it if possible. I also try to eat a lot of fruits, vegetables and meat, reducing fat as much as possible. With all that I go regularly to the gym. I am no gym junkie. I go alone, so I had to find a way to motivate myself. One thing that works for me is to go to the gym which has regular fitness programs (e.g. crunches). That way I have "an obligation" to show up at specific time. It gets me started, so going to the rest of gym is not that big deal since I am already there. I also use audio books to keep my mind busy while exercising (repetitive work is boring).
I am happy with the results but there is always area for improvement. This was the first summer I was happy showing my body (I was always a chubby kid). And I can't describe you the feeling first time I wore a slim shirt. It was worth all the work (and suffering). I am also a lot healthier and have more energy. I rarely get sick. My allergies are almost gone (and as kid I basically could not breath starting in February and ending in November). If not for anything else, do it for your health.

Here is a great link that thought me a lot.

Inner Game is a gigantic subject and can not be covered in one post. I will try to cover as much as possible and talk about my experience. I will try to recommend what can be done to improve if one is having problems. Please note, these are only my opinions based on my experience. I am not a psychologist, just someone who has been dealing with this (and still is at some degree).

I was a shy person. I was (and still catch myself) thinking "what if" questions. "What if I accidentally offend someone?", "What if I accidentally hurt someone?", "What if I make a wrong decision?", "What if..." Don't get me wrong, going always head first is an idiotic behavior, but finding that fine line can be a trick.
I was raised to be polite and not to insult anyone. I always listened to my parents. I was a "good" kid everyone was talking about and proud of. I was protected by a bubble of goodness and didn't see how world was in reality. "If I were good to others, others will be good to me." Unfortunately that is not always the case. Polite raising resulted in me not being a fighter and very insecure person. I kept my insecurities by playing safe and overachieving. I wasn't going to any competitive events (because I might loose). "What would people think about me then?"
First step is admitting you have a problem (alcoholics anonymous ftw). Then committing (not deciding, commuting) to do something about it. Changing yourself is extremely hard but rewards are unimaginable.

One of the "early things" came to me when I started working during my high school years. I was a promotional event organizer for one marketing company. Organizing an event is no problem (you have to have a good checklist). Running an event and leading the staff is another thing. It started as organizing a small 10, 20, 30 person events. I was managing a crew consisting of myself and my laptop. Easy. Right? Not exactly. Working with people is hard and it is very difficult to please everybody (e.g. impossible). Someone will always complain. I spent countless hour sobbing to one of my best friends about how "nobody likes me". When I finally realized I don't need to please everybody (and I can't no matter how much I want to) I started dealing with my insecurities (still a long way, though).

First "axiom" I started living by is "It is not important what is someone saying, but who is saying it".
Don't bother with random people's opinions and thoughts about you and yourself. Bother about opinions and thoughts from those closest to you. They care about you and they will set you straight. Try it, it works wonders. I heard about it but didn't took it seriously until I decided to change myself. If I did I could have saved myself a lot of pain. But there is no school like life.

Another eye opener came from that same high school job. I was supposed to organize a 100+ event that had a staff of 6. We also had a main organizer who was supposed to run the event. Everybody was at least 10 years older then me, but since I was not going to deal with them directly, no problem.
A day before the event, a main organizer came to me and said that I was going to run the event tomorrow. My world collapsed. What was I supposed to do now? omg, omg, omg...
First the event started with a public speech addressing the participants. Of course, I was supposed to deliver that. In the middle of speech I lost my voice. (yay) Then one of the participants rose from his seat and said: "Be quiet everyone, morphy has a gentle, tender voice, so that we can all hear him". Later during the event I was, of course, running all over the place while the staff was idling. Then the main organizer took me aside and told me: "You are going to sit on this chair and whenever I see you not sitting here I am going to take a part of your salary". I needed to learn how to manage and deal with my insecurities very quickly. This is the moment I decided I want to work with people and manage them.

After I graduated I started working as a project manager. I managed big projects with a lot of money, staff (I didn't personally know anything about) and tight schedules involved. I also didn't know a lot about the nature of the project I was supposed to run. But work had to be done. One way how I was dealing with insecurities was putting my boss in cc of every mail I've sent. Soon, my boss stopped reading my mails. The breaking point was thinking to myself "morphy, make a decision, the best one with the data available, and just do it". And I did it. I still ask my boss for input, but now I get responses quickly.

These are just some of the stories from my life and are probably very different from yours. But some ideas can be taken from them. Try making decisions, even small ones and work your way up. Listen the feedback you receive and calibrate your behavior accordingly. There is no failure, only feedback you choose to discard. There are no problems, only opportunities. Try it!

Ok, so what does this has to do with the Game? Do you guys know that moment when you see a girl who you would like to meet and you instantly freeze?
That is, gentlemen approach anxiety (AA). It is a normal, natural process. Every man experience is when approaching girls. Why? It is genetics.
Our brain is hardwired for not lives we are living today but for thousands of years ago when we were all living as homo sapiens in savanna, steppe in tribes. We are only living as urbanized societies for a couple of thousands of years (roughly six), but we lived as hunter-gatherers for nearly 50 000 years. Our genes are specialized for such conditions.
In small tribes there were not a lot of available women (possible mates). Some of the women were either too old or young, some were taken. OK, so when you had narrowed the selection to those couple of available ladies, there were still two life threatening problems:
1. If you had wrong intel, and you started messing with a alpha male's women, you could be killed. He and his friends could literary stone you to death.
2. If you guessed wrong but your delivery was wrong, and you blew your chances you were screwed. Why? Girls like to gossip like they do today. Only problem back then is that whole "attractive/available girl's"' social circle consisted of attractive/available girls. And gossip about your attempt would spread. And you would not have any chances with the rest of the girls. (And you could not move out like you can today).

What were results of 1. and 2.? Those men did not have any offspring to carry their genes. Only those more cautious men (did better intel or worked on their performance more) managed to create the next generation. And that behavior propagated through gene pool (since it had 50 000 years).

What about today? Murder is illegal and highly unlikely. Girls still gossip but unless you are living in a small village, there are always new fish in the sea. There is no real danger by approaching. You simply have to deal with it.

How?

There are couple of techniques but idea is to realize that the irrationality of AA.
1. 3 second rule (by Mystery)
Do your approach before the fear kicks in and you talk yourself out of approaching ("Maybe she has a boyfriends", "She looks busy right now", "She is going to reject me",...).
As soon as you spot someone you like, go. Having prepared something to say before you enter the night club helps.

The scenario (by Roosh)
Find a quiet place and imagine following scenario: So you approach a girl and she starts laughing. She is laughing so hard that she fells. Others notice what you did and start laughing. People whip their cell phones out and start texting, taking photos and videos. Also, there was a TV station crew at the scene and managed to record your approach. And it was a live stream. And it was shown during most popular TV show like news. There is also a TV in the bar where you can see show host laughing his lungs off. Also, there was a live reporting from local stadium where, of course, your approach was seen by thousands of people on big screen. Everybody is laughing and rolling on the floor. They are laughing so hard that they can't help themselves.
OK, do you have this scenario in your head? Yes? OK, now listen very carefully. THIS IS NOT GOING TO HAPPEN! You are probably a smart person (because you are reading this, dough) and you have realized it by now. But you can call this worse case scenario. What is likely to happen is that she will either like you and your delivery (let's call it opener) or she will not and ignore you. So what if she doesn't like it? She will not remember you next day, trust me. You are not as special as you think. Unless you behave as and total idiot and insult her very, very, very directly and stab her or punch her in the face, she will not remember you. You will be "just another guy that approached me that night". (I actually experimented how much can you provoke a girl before she slaps you. Again, unless you act like a jerk directly insulting you, this is not going to happen. Actually, girl will be attracted to you)
Think about it.

Practice makes perfect
Try this exercise: Go to your local shop and ask random strangers questions about some goods there (e.g. "Is this cereal whole grain?", "Do you know where milk is?"). Try making an eye contact as you talk to them. With time, it will be easier and will not be a problem. Next try asking strangers at the street for directions. Again, hold your eye contact while talking. Remember, be polite and thank them for their time.

Approach anxiety will not go away but you can recognize it as normal part of yourself and ignore it.

Good luck and let me know how are you doing.

This one should be easy since about the Game you can read in book "The Game" by Neil Strauss.
This was an eye opener and I recommend it to everyone who asks the question "Why"?

You are NOT going to learn any tricks or gambits from this book (OK, maybe some). And you should not. Idea is to get thinking about the subject. The "OMG" effect.

Since I am a nerd (and you are, probably), I wanted to know why is it working. What is the theory (science) behind it. Here is some recommended reading:
The Red Queen: Sex and the Evolution of Human Nature by Matt Ridley
The Selfish Gene by Richard Dawkins
Sperm Wars by Robin Baker
The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene

I am also very interested in Body Language (have been studying it for a couple of years now) and I recommend you following book:
What Every BODY is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People by Joe Navarro

Now it gets tricky. Because there are two aspects of the game one should work on: inner and outer game.
Inner game is the biggest, baddest and trickiest. It deals with yourself. It deals with your fears, insecurities and personal problems. We are all damaged in one way or another. This is why we start playing the game. But this is a separate topic i will cover next. This part of game influences all parts your life.
Outer game deals with how to correctly represent yourself to the outer world. If inner game is superb, there is no real need for outer game. But since that is usually not the case we need those tricks, gambits and routines. Outer game is all about representation. A separate topic indeed.

This should be enough to get you started.

Let us start with that first "what is this blog about" post. Shall we?
I was a nice guy. I loved being romantic, came from patriotic family where "man is a sole provider and needs to take care of everybody" and had more money then average teenager should have. Let me just say that I bought Channel no. 5 to one of my "relationships". I didn't know better. I was telling myself "If I give her all attention and gifts, she is going to appreciate me."
Almost a year ago I was in a very bad "relationship" after being stuck in a four year long terrible relationship that took me another four years to get over. Some readers familiar with the terminology would call me omega, and would probably be right. I was the nicest guy there was. I was also a straight A student, had a job, looked decently, shy but fun when you got to know me. Everything a girl would want. Right?
What a sucker I was. Luckily there is God, or karma or greater power or whatever you want to call him (or it?). One of those relationships introduced me to a book called "The Game" but told me that I was to nice for something like that and I didn't need that. I needed it desperately. Crucial moment I realized it was my personification with fear when I noticed some girls looking at me at a festival I was attending with friends. I decided to change my life and work "on that area I am still missing out".

You can find about a million blogs writing about the Game, manosphere, social dynamics, Venusian arts... I still haven't found any that is written by someone who is still struggling with this. I still haven't found one that is not written by a guru of some sorts (there are a lot of very good guys out there who have a lot to teach and I appreciate their work). Well, I want this blog to be that one. Starting from first steps and going on. We will see.

GLHF.